Does everyone have to turn down team invitations every five minutes?
City of Heroes lets you set a LFG flag to a variety of settings. I indicate that I am soloing by leaving if off. This does not seem to deter people. If I am in a mission, I cannot be invited, so I am safe there except for the occasional /tell asking if I would like to quit my mission and join theirs. In the time it takes me to fly between missions, someone will send me an invitation or, more politely, an /tell asking if I am LFG.
Apparently, they believe that I would like to be on a team, but I am not competent enough to operate the LFG button. That is not the level of competency you want your healer to have.
Part of this is surely that I tend towards support classes and their hybrids. In the City of Stalkers and Masterminds, buffs and heals are at a premium. I occasionally remember that I can ditch lousy pickup groups because I can be picky. That is always a liberating feeling.
Blind invitations are always an interesting notion. A little window pops up, and I am led to wonder whether this is someone I know. A friend’s alt? An SG-mate I had not noticed? Check a couple of screens, nope, this is just some random person who has never spoken to me. I might even allow a few of these before putting someone on /ignore.
The random requests by /tell are more variable. There, you have a chance to sell me on joining your group even when I was not looking. Maybe you will catch me on a whim. I have met some very good people through just this sort of pickup group. I have had good groups that ran well and benefited everyone.
Last night, during a Hamidon raid, I was invited to join the first respec trial. To translate for players of other games, I was in a level 50 raid zone, and this was a request to join a level 24 quest four zones away. I credit this as one of the more polite invitations, since they mentioned that fact up front.
Frequently, I get invited to fight blues and greens several zones away, in a slow-moving, indecisive team. The invitation rarely advertises that description. Other times, I hear, “u wana help with mish”
How do you deal with this politely? Should you?