I bet on the wrong raid

I joined a raiding alliance. It seemed like the perfect solution. My kin had never beat any raid bosses and I was tired of spending three hours a week dying to the watcher without any rewards. My kin had also been wiping on the first boss of DN with no luck. So I signed up for a DN raid on my alliance one week, and sadly my kin decided to go into DN at the exact same date/time… they just didn’t post it until the night before the raid.

I had two raid planners, both with DN raids at the same time. One entry was my Kin’s. It was mostly blank except for my husband and two other members. The other entry, I was one of 11 other people signed up on the alliance raid. This was my first chance to switch raids. But I knew my Kin had never beat the trolls and had also never had 12 people together for an attempt at a full-kin group before. The alliance had killed the first three bosses already this week and wanted to try the 4th. If I dropped out and switched, I’d lose DKP. I decided to stick with the alliance. After all, I signed up with them first.

The time came and I found myself standing outside DN grouped with my raiding alliance. My kin managed to pull together 12 people for the first time in the history of their DN attempts. I was jealous, but I knew if I dropped out of my alliance at that point, and they saw me go into DN with my kin, I would lose my spot with the alliance forever. This was my second chance to change. I decided to stick with the alliance.

While clearing trash mobs to the 4th boss in my alliance, I watched on my husband’s screen as they killed the trolls on their first attempt. That was devastating. The kin that wiped three hours per week for months finally killed something and distributed loot. Oh, how badly I wanted to kill those trolls. Someone dropped out of my kin’s raid and I was left with another opportunity. Do I drop my alliance’s raid and switch characters, clearly ditching them mid-raid in favor of my kinship’s raid? If I did, I’d surely be kicked from my alliance for leaving them. This was my third chance to switch raids, and again I stuck with the alliance.

My kinship’s raid went on to 11-man the 3rd boss of DN before calling it a night. I missed out on the downing of two raid bosses. My alliance was actually fairly close to beating their boss when people started dropping from raid. I took this opportunity to log out as well. I had been in the raid long enough to avoid losing DKP.

My husband was jumping up and down and cheering, of course… but I feel like crap. I missed out. If only they hadn’t waited until the day before the raid to put it on the raid planner.

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Suzina is a 27 year old who usally plays the same MMOs as her husband. Games played: UO, EQ2, FFXI, SWG, LOTRO.

15 thoughts on “I bet on the wrong raid”

  1. It’s not crap, and it’s about Suzina joining a raiding alliance just as her kinship finally make progress in the encounter that had been stalling them for so long.

    It’s right up there, man.

  2. I’m not sure what response you’re looking for… Personally, I find this post pretty annoying.

    You didn’t bet on the wrong raid, you choose to prioritize one group above another. And it probably wasn’t even a wrong decision, chances are you’re kin will not have that kind of success on average. Yet you still can’t make up your mind and take some responsibility for having choose it.

    So your kin did well, great, be happy for them. Better yet be proud of them. You have a new main raiding group that you choose and choose to stick to. It’s time to give that group your %110 and be someone they can count on. If you don’t want to do that and would rather raid with your kin, then do that. Don’t just sit around feeling mopey because someone else managed to have fun. Even if it sucks, smile and tell everyone it’s wonderful. That’s part of taking responsibility for your choices.

    If this post had been at all introspective, or maybe you had figured out why you feel so crappy about it, I’d probably be a lot more sympathetic. All I saw here was you being selfish.

  3. As I was reading this, I had letters flashing in my mind. This was rather a bitter post, showing us readers, how easilly you can wake up the most hidden part of your personality simply by playing a game. I can’t put those letters together anymore as I have to check e-mails at work in the same time and have read other stuff too, but I think it was something like: shellfish..

    (hint: sometimes it’s better to combine some of those “revealing” material. if gaming has such a negative effect on you, try to mix drinking and gaming perhaps. I usually craft some critted stuff for kinnies after a few glasses of red wine and go to sleep with a smile on my face)

  4. Lotro usen’t to be like this.

    Guild hopping to make progress used not to be part of the game.

    I don’t like it.

    1. Dude… LOTRO isn’t like this. It’s been evident for some time that Suz plays it with a pretty… let’s say awkward attitude. I can’t say she plays it wrong since it’s a game and it’s her dime to play it as she pleases. heh.

    1. As a member of said hippy commune, I can’t really slag people for using DKP. There’s always something to be said for transfering decision making, especially for rewards, to the cold unfeeling spreadsheet.

      For folks really really realllllly serious about raiding it makes sense. Of course folks who become slaves to it are just silly. I see posts on the forum saying how broken some raid loot is because with their DKP system no one wants to bid on some of the lesser items… uh…. wtf! /roll, ya dummies! :P

  5. Maybe your kin had success because the weak link was sitting out…

    Kidding, kidding.

    I think I said this on another raid-related post of yours, but raiding is not about progress and loot, it’s about making progress and gearing up with a group you like spending time with, with everyone putting in the effort to make that progress. That’s why raid-jumping is a great way to accelerate canceling your account. Not only are you burning content faster, but you are also getting a lot less from it, and those bonds that get you to wipe for 3 hours for weeks get a lot weaker.

  6. I’ll always play with my friends over strangers, but maybe that’s just me. Accomplishments mean nothing (ultimately) in these games to me, it’s who I am with that matters. Even if we wipe all the time.

    1. Def, and as Moondog548 implied above, I think much of the LOTRO community plays for fun, comradery, and the story, which was why MoM end game was so off putting. It was no longer let’s get together and have fun… it became let’s be straitjacketed to do this one thing.

      1. I do see a point when your friends fail to step out of the fire for the 50th time. Of course it’s only a game. But if you outgrow your hobby soccer team and join one that’s playing one league above, no one would object. Oh wait, it’s a game, that’s totally different!

        I used to be like this whole “stick to your guild if you like the people” but if it kills the fun for *you*, why not switch?

        1. FWIW several members of our no-focus kinship raid regularly and irregularly with raid-focused kinships. Some feel the need to part ways with us and join those kinships and we say GLHF because everyone deserves to get their $15 worth. Plenty of other folks though stay with us ’cause they <3 us and raid with others to get their fix when they're not raiding with us.

          Drama is a crutch for the weak! ;-}

  7. I’m rather new here, so I’m not certain why people are a bit…up in your grill over this post, but it sounds to me like when you are at the bank or grocery store, and you jump in the line that’s moving the fastest, only to have it grind to a halt. You stand and watch as the other line starts moving ahead at a good clip, and you flirt with the idea of hopping over into it. Then you see that little old lady who came in after you do her business and head out the door, and you seriously consider switching lines.

    Just remember, though. The moment you actually switch lines is the moment it will stop dead and the line you were just in starts moving. Not a moment before.

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